Urgh some (white male cis) sub just messaged me on one of my fetish/kink profiles to tell me that I’m “cuddly not fat” — even though I have quite clearly written on my profile that I’m fat, and an unapologetic badass bitch about it. FUCK YOU. Saying that not only perpetuates fatphobia and the idea that fat is a bad thing, but it also takes away my agency to talk about and define MY OWN BODY in whatever way I want. You’re not being complimentary; you’re part of the fucking problem. URGH.